racism and antisemitism

[vaznetti]

I was going to post about my response to ibarw (International Blog Against Racism Week; visit the comm for links and discussion), and kept putting it off, because I get the sense that people's feelings are still rather raw, and goodness knows we don't need another round of "those Italians/Hungarians/Russians/Protestants/whatevers beat up my grandparents!" I think that IBARW is a good and useful thing, irrespective of how it makes me feel.

Now I'm in the situation where I think I ought to speak up about that. This is in response to a chain of posts which have something to do with that thing about bands playing gay on stage which (a) I do not know anything about and (b) I do not care anything about. As far as I'm concerned, what I'm talking about starts here, with a comment which I am going to come out and say is anti-semitic. chopchica, who I do not know at all, responds here. And finally technosage examined her own discomfort with discussions of antisemitism here.


One of the weirder things about being a member of what we call an invisible minority is the sense that you really are invisible: that honestly, the world would be a simpler and happier place if you simply didn't exist to mess up other people's world view, and that, if you insist on your existence, you're doing something rude. I didn't post this during ibarw because I didn't want to be rude. A lot of people I like and respect are involved in ibarw, and I think it is a good and important thing, and I didn't want to mess it up by insisting on imposing my perspective on it. But I feel silenced by IBARW, not because I don't usually talk about racism in my off-line life, but because I do; but when I talk about racism in these contexts, my experiences and understanding of antisemitism are considered relevant to the discussion, whereas in IBARW I'm not sure they would be welcome.

I think there are a couple reasons for this. The biggest, probably, is that a lot of the IBARW discussions are about white privilege, and American Jews are usually able to take advantage of this. I don't mean to belittle the importance of this: it's a very significant advantage. I would point out that being white and being Christian are not the same things; I don't think I can pass for Christian, although I've never tried. I don't know how relevant that is to most IBARW discussions, honestly, so I understand why the issue gets sidelined; being Jewish -- which includes not being Christian -- is pretty central to my own identity.

The second, and more insidious reason, is that I don't think antisemitism lives in the same places as other forms of racism (or, "as racism," if you want to draw a distinction between the two), which is to say that in my experience you never really know who's going to come out with an anti-semitic comment, and it often seems to me that antisemitism is a bit more acceptable on the left wing than the right wing, at least in the countries I've lived in. The anti-racist "we" may hold a variety of different attitudes toward antisemitism, and bringing the subject up might well end up fracturing that anti-racist "we." I sometimes get the sense that there is a certain amount of denial about this on the left.

I rather feel like I have taken my life into my hands writing that last bit.

And honestly, right now I also want to add that I am not going to discuss Israel in the comments to this post.

I should also make the point that the urge to pass is a strong one: why draw attention to your differences from the majority if you don't have to? And the answer is right there: because eventually, the majority will point them out to you anyway.

We used to joke about a family friend who thought there was an anti-semite hiding under every bed; more and more, the joke seems to be that there usually is.

I'm not sure where else to take this, except that I don't think that it's right that I feel silenced on this issue. And therefore, I am speaking. And that is probably why I will not lock this post.

My perspective may be a little odd. I grew up in San Francisco, which is not a very Jewish city, but which is a pretty tolerant place, and I went to an Ivy League college which was probably 20% Jewish, if not more. Most of my experiences with antisemitism have come while I lived outside the US, either in the UK or in Canada; some of it is just "Oh, aren't you exotic," some of it is the more disturbing habit of taking stereotype for fact. I usually blame anti-semitic comments made to my face on ignorance rather than ill-will. One of the reasons I would like to move back to the US is that Jewishness feeds into my feeling of being alien in both Canada and the UK; visiting New York this summer, a city I have lived in for about ten months total, was like having a weight lifted from my shoulders. I have a lot of issues about Judaism, and my Jewish identity, but they're my issues: my identity isn't going anywhere, while I work them out.

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[elishavah.livejournal.com]

This is me speaking for me, obviously, but I feel like it needs to be said in this type of discussion.

Some of it is the sense, intended or not, of forced assimilation. In so many countries and cultures, Jews have been, and still are, forced to hide and forced to pass. Christianity has experienced this, too, but in U.S. society as it currently stands, I can't help sometimes thinking that the automatically said words and wishes are an unconscious press gang. It feels like the majority is all but thumping me on the head with We Are All; What You Are Doesn't Count. There isn't even the vague invitation of "be like us"; it's just all, "there is nothing that's not us." And no matter how much I know that you, hossgal, don't think same : not the same :: good : bad in this situation, and that I think you know and regret how rare that is, I honestly don't know whether you can understand how it feels to live with the way the general populace behaves on a daily basis when it comes to Judaism.

So on one hand, I know that Happy/Merry Anything said in, say, April or December is usually meant to be a general wish of goodness and health and so on, and I do my best to take it in that spirit, because thank you. On the other hand, no matter how secular a Christian may feel Easter or Christmas have become, they're still holidays of a religion that is NOT MINE. I wouldn't wish anyone who isn't Jewish a happy new year this week, any more than I would've wished someone from Japan happy new year this past February. I've been dancing around saying this, but it's insulting, frankly, in a way that I'm not sure anyone who isn't the majority could understand. It's not an exact parallel, but even in the Guy Fawkes/4th example Minnow started, you're coming at it as an American, which in this day and age puts you in the position of power, whereas I imagine a Briton might feel a bit different about it, considering the number of Canadians I've heard speak up when an American wishes them Happy Thanksgiving in November. Um, an even more inexact example, but I'm trying to help, here: it's also something like how I imagine you and others on LJ feel when anyone at the liberal end of the spectrum "speaks for everyone."

Anyway, I'm not walking around a seething ball of Offended or anything, because it's just easier to get through life if I'm not. But there are times when I have to pull back into a corner for a while, because the other alternative is to grab nearly everyone who speaks to me, and shake them while asking, "Do you even realize what it sounds like you're thinking?!"

[jood.livejournal.com]

I can't help sometimes thinking that the automatically said words and wishes are an unconscious press gang

Thank you so much. This is exactly how it feels for me, and it makes me so sad that I can't express this to the very nice, very kind folks who don't realize the implications of some otherwise well-intentioned wishes.

The pressure to become "normal " here is almost suffocating, again (as I mentioned elsewhere in this conversation) assuming that Christian is the default spiritual state.

I also find it difficult to fully accept proselytizing as a well-intentioned part of another person's faith when the often-unstated consequence is that they believe I am doomed to an eternity of divine punishment for failure to comply. That doesn't feel like love or respect to me, it feels like coercion. From the perspective of those who genuinely wish to share The Word, it must be very difficult to understand how it feels to be told almost continually that I am not as good as they are.

[vaznetti]

Thank you for saying this. Yes.

[hossgal.livejournal.com]

Just to say that I am in the midst of shifting households *today*, but I will be back to this later, because I want to answer your comment thoughtfully, and that, in particular, I thank you for this:

an even more inexact example, but I'm trying to help, here: it's also something like how I imagine you and others on LJ feel when anyone at the liberal end of the spectrum "speaks for everyone."

It's not an exact example, no, (and not just because it's still not widely acceptable to say 'I'd rather cross the street than have to say hello to a Jew' on lj *g*) but that you acknowledge the existance of that type of exclusion/bias goes a tremendously long way to increasing my goodwill in this discussion (already pretty high towards you, and I hope you know that) and it *does* serve well as a meeting point of "this is how/why this makes me feel bad".

I think a lot of IBAR, because of the focus and tone of the debate, forces the discussion *away* from those points of commonality that otherwise would serve the discussion well. (The concept of bigotry towards Jews being one of those that I saw was expressly *excluded* from discussion.) I thank you for letting us - you and me - have a (somewhat) common meeting place.

While I'm at it - does this passage read like you intended it to?

I wouldn't wish anyone who isn't Jewish a happy new year this week, any more than I would've wished someone from Japan happy new year this past February. I've been dancing around saying this, but it's insulting, frankly, in a way that I'm not sure anyone who isn't the majority could understand.

- hg

[elishavah.livejournal.com]

Damn it, no, that wasn't what I meant. Who IS the majority.

::sigh:: I'm tired and you're shifting, so...how about for the time being we just agree that we know we're not out to get each other, and then come back later. Because I do mean to write up that post, and I hope that it will help, not hurt.

[bluflamingo.livejournal.com]

I just wanted to say thank you for posting this comment, because you made me think about holidays and holiday greetings, and what they mean in a way that I never really have before, particularly with what you said about the holiday, even if it's more secular now, still being tied to another religion. I hope this doesn't come across as patronisingly as I fear it will - like I'm saying that the only value in your experience is to teach me something, when I mean that I'm grateful to you for talking about it and making me more aware of something I wasn't before.

And now I'm shutting up because I feel an onset of deep-hole-getting-deeper.

[vaznetti]

I think a lot of secular Christians don't really think of Christmas as a religious holiday, but it is, at root.

And obviously, I think people recognize on an individual level that someone wishing you a Merry Christmas is usually only trying to be nice -- the problem is the constant repetition of it, which starts to get alienating.

Thank you for commenting!

[elishavah.livejournal.com]

Oh, no worries. Really, I'm glad my stumbling around on this is helping anyone in any way.